Going with the flow is not an excuse for having no plans or direction. I'm simply saying sometimes we have no control over certain events. One thing you can be sure of is life is dynamic, and you are only going with the flow until you're able to influence the direction you are headed, and that should always be your intention. Although external circumstances can be out of your control, the one thing you have ultimate control over is how you think. That's where
your focus should be. Only through your thinking can you influence where you're going.
Listen, life is neutral. When we were protected by our parents or guardians as youngsters, we may have assumed we would be given certain advantages. But we mature and discover through heartbreak, setbacks, and disappointments, life can feel anything but fair. It will actively discourage you from making the required changes in your life because that's what it does.
Fight it!
As humans, we like the idea that we can control everything around us. If our plans don't flow seamlessly all the time, we are bent out of shape. Only through experience do we come to realize that we must allow for the possibility that things can go wrong. We cannot predict precisely how events will turn out. We must have an end in mind - a goal and a system to create it and be flexible in the middle because challenges will come.
That's why sometimes you're hit with circumstances that you have no control over, and you can only do the best you can. All your highfalutin plans go up in smoke, and you are forced to float along until you find ways to adapt. The blame game may make you feel better, but it's a waste of your power to create the change you need. When your hurting, sometimes just floating for a while to gain your bearings is the best thing for you. Once your head is on straight,
and you are calm and relaxed, then make flexible/adaptive plans that allow for a way out of the mess.
Speaking to my reader family and friends, many have experienced uncanny results by sometimes going with the flow of life. Pushing things around, trying to make things happen, forcing people and circumstances to bend to our will just doesn't work long term. I'm not the only one who thinks exercising the need to control things all the time is counterproductive.
Going with the flow is realising that there is a higher power existent in the universe. In Star Wars, it's the force. When we feel it and go with it, then we can ride the waves and come out on the other side, better than we entered the storm.
The only thing to do then is to trust it. Feel what it's telling us and move in that direction.
