Talk Yourself to the Top. Don't be a Victim of Negative Self Talk.

Published: Sun, 03/10/19

You are Enough. Always have Been. Always Will be.

— Anton Marks

I learned the lesson of how powerful negative self-talk can be in a really unfortunate way. I was working part-time at a telemarketing company selling electronic advertising space, many years ago. I had really stepped out of my comfort zone on this one but the hours were flexible, and that was really important at the time. It took me a while to become comfortable with what was required, but when I did, I was doing okay. I was proud because I never saw myself as a salesman. It was a kind of work environment I didn’t think I could thrive in, but I did. Then a guy in the desk beside me - all the telemarketers worked together in a large open plan room, started talking about how my Jamaican accent would make me lose sales. I let him into my head and he planted a seed. His subtle and not so subtle hints that I was inadequate started to take hold.I started to believe this was true and began repeating the toxic self talk, long after he had forgotten what he had done. Three weeks later I left, firmly believing I couldn’t do the job. A job, that I had successfully done only a month ago.

Lesson learnt.

You're a Warrior! Let No One Tell you otherwise.

Negative self-talk is that little voice in your head, running in the background like a broken record. A soundtrack to your life that wants you to never recognize your greatness. There is nothing inherently wrong with self-talk. It is how we process things. A filter we use to make sense of our existence before we share it with the world. What is dangerous and mind blowing at the same time is our ability to change significant aspects of our lives through the way we talk to ourselves.
Our inner dialogue.

The problem is the things we tell ourselves do not empower us. We hold the power in our hands to talk ourselves to the top, but instead of soaring with the eagles we’re scratching with the chickens.

The same effort it takes us to catastrophize we could use it to hook us to the closest rocket and launch ourselves to the stars. But it has to be a habit you develop. If you see all your positive experiences as “just luck” or “random,” then you won’t attribute them to your own hard work and internalize them as successes. You did the hard work, you brokered the deal, you finished a novel, you got the raise. You did all of this. Stop selling yourself short. Look yourself in the mirror and say I did this. If I can do it once I can do it again. Take responsibility for your results. They are yours.

Reprogramming your brain with new ideas takes discipline, repetition and time. It took time to create the you that is standing in front of the mirror and will take time to improve you. Make positive affirmations a new part of your routine. Add them to your daily meditation practice if you have one. Post them on the mirror. Write them in your notebook. Make them a daily habit, so they become a part of your life.

Just remember this. Keep telling yourself how dynamic you are. Keep telling yourself you’re not broken. In fact, you’ve never been stronger. You’re not finished, so stop telling yourself how bad your life seems to be. We are living in some of the best times in human history. You are worthy, and you deserve everything you’ve got. And if you continue to acknowledge your good works and recognize your potential to create more good works, the world will recognize what you're capable of. But most importantly you will know too.

Peace

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