Love Yourself First. Success & Happiness is about Being Selfish.

Published: Wed, 02/27/19

Its not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and make your happiness a priority. Its a necessity.

— Mandy Hale

I’m a giver.
In my early twenties, I started to notice that some girlfriends of mine were getting severely bent out of shape with spontaneous acts of kindness they could not process. It was like caring for them was a sign of weakness. They could sacrifice for you, but you couldn't do it in return. I started asking myself if they couldn’t accept kindness from a friend, would they accept it from themselves.

Stress is a choice. Drama is a choice. happiness is also a choice. Choose Well.

It made me think.
Most people are focused on the outside not the in.
Hard won experience has taught me we should all be more selfish and prioritize our own needs. We need to take care of ourselves before taking care of other people. Keep in mind, nobody is going to get you where you want to be. You are the only one who can do it. If you're going to live the life of your dreams, you need to put yourself first and do everything necessary to get you where you want to go. Make yourself a priority and look after your own needs. Motivation, enthusiasm, and energy aren’t bottomless pits.
Most of us don’t know how to do this. We don’t know how to prioritize ourselves. We don’t know how to love ourselves.

These are the martyrs who are a mess inside and out but put others before their own healing, their own progress.
Think about it. You’re available 24/7 for friends and family while ignoring and overextending yourself.
And what state are we in after all that?
Tired, stressed and frustrated.
You’re no good to anyone like that. You can’t perform at your best with these emotions in the way.
You must care for number one, first.
I don’t care how you interpret it if you're not on top form yourself how can you effectively help anyone else. If I have a hope of contributing I need to be in a good place first. If I’m not, all I’m doing is hurting the people around me.
How do you get into that frame of mind if all your life you’ve been told being selfish is a bad thing?
Simple.
The best way to prove or disprove it to yourself is by experiencing the results.
Experimentation.
How do you do that?
Let's give yourself a week of self-love. Set some boundaries. You will do these things first and foremost before any demands are made of you from, friends, family or work.

Try this everyday for a week:
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Meditate/ Make Quiet Time
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Eat Healthily
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Exercise
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Read/Learn
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Set Goals
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Show Gratitude

How do you feel now?
Make time to fill up in whatever way makes you feel good. Take the opportunity to care for yourself, and your goals only then can you wholeheartedly care for others.

Peace

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