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Chill for a moment and reflect: what if your frustration with life isnât about the obstacles themselves but your expectation that they shouldnât exist? We often assume that ease is the default and that things should go our way unless something âgoes wrong.â But what if ease is the exception and difficulty is the
rule?
The truth is, struggle isnât a glitch in the systemâit is the system. And hereâs the counterintuitive twist: once you accept that, life becomes more manageableânot because the challenges disappear, but because you stop resisting them. The energy you once spent fighting reality can now be channelled into navigating it.
Ryan Holidayâs philosophy is rooted in
the Stoic idea that obstacles donât just test us; they forge us. The impediment to action, he writes, advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way. This perspective isnât about romanticizing struggle but redefining it. An obstacle isnât the universe conspiring against youâitâs a forge, shaping you into someone stronger, wiser, and more capable.
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When the river meets a rock in its path, it
doesnât stop or complain. It adapts. It flows around, over, and through. It wears the rock down over time, not with brute force but with persistence. You, too, can adopt this approach. The obstacle doesnât need to be conqueredâit needs to be engaged.
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This perspective has changed how I approach both my life and my work. When Iâm stuck on a scene or a chapter, I donât see it as a failure of
creativity. I see it as a signal that Iâm on the verge of discovery. The block isnât a barrierâitâs a threshold. I neednât avoid the struggle but lean into it, trusting that itâs guiding me toward something deeper.
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The same is true for lifeâs broader challenges. Losing a job, facing rejection, or enduring heartbreak isnât a diversion from the ârealâ pathâit is the path. These moments force us
to reevaluate, adapt, and grow. They strip away the illusions we cling to and show us what weâre truly capable of.
Peck writes, âOnce we truly know that life is difficultâonce we truly understand and accept itâthen life is no longer difficult.â The difficulty remains, but it ceases to feel unbearable. The obstacle doesnât shrink; you grow.
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This isnât just philosophyâitâs practical. Psychologists tell us that our beliefs about hardship shape how we experience it. If you expect life to be easy, every challenge feels like an attack. But if you expect difficulty, it becomes manageable, even meaningful. The obstacle transforms from a source of frustration into a teacher.
So, what does this mean for you? It means when life blocks your flow, itâs
offering you something invaluable: the chance to grow. Friction isnât failure; itâs fuel. Resistance isnât rejection; itâs redirection. Instead of asking, âWhy me?â ask, âWhat can I learn from this?â Instead of resisting the current, adapt to it.
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Life is difficult. Thatâs the truth. But within that truth lies freedom. Freedom to face life as it is, not as you wish it would be. Freedom to grow
through struggle, to find purpose in pain, and to let the obstacle shape you into something greater.
The best way forward is rarely the easiest. But itâs always the most transformative. Let the block in your path become the reason you rise. What stands in the way becomes the wayâif you let it.
Peace, love and power.
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