You Don’t Get to Avoid Hard—You Only Get to Pick Which Kind
Every time I put off a hard decision, the hard doesn’t disappear. It just compounds and shows up later, bigger and nastier. The hard I ignore today becomes the crisis I deal with
tomorrow.
- Getting fit is hard. But so is feeling out of shape.
- Saving money is hard. But so is being broke.
- Building a relationship is hard. But so is being lonely.
- Waking up early is hard. But so is scrambling through your day unprepared.
- Saying no to distractions is
hard. But so is feeling like you’re behind in life.
- A tough conversation is hard. But so is living with resentment.
- Learning new skills is hard. But so is being replaceable.
- Growth is hard. But so is staying stuck.
Whatever you do, life is going to hand you hard things. The only question is:
Are they pushing you forward or holding you back?
Life Will Choose for You—If You Don’t Choose First
Many people stay stuck in cycles of complaining, apathy, and despair. They don’t realise that not choosing is still a choice. When you refuse to pick your hard, life picks it for you. And life doesn’t care about your comfort.
You either choose the struggle that leads to progress or wake up one day trapped in a struggle you never wanted.
Kobe Bryant woke up at 4 AM to train. He didn’t have to. He chose that hard because the alternative—being average—was harder for him to accept.
Carl Jung wrote, “When you are up against a
wall, put down roots like a tree until clarity comes from deeper sources to see over that wall and grow.” Growth takes time. You don’t break through life by avoiding discomfort. You break through by standing firm, doing the work, and growing beyond the obstacle.
Avoiding Hard Things Doesn’t Work
Avoiding hard things doesn’t make life easier. It makes life
smaller.
Some people drift through life, waiting for things to get better, waiting for motivation to strike. But motivation is unreliable. Action leads, and motivation follows. You don’t wait to feel ready—you pick your hard and move.
Christian Bobin wrote: “Life will only ever give me a series of wonderfully insoluble problems.” There will always
be something hard in front of you. The trick is to choose the hard that serves you.
Hard Mode is the Only Way Forward
Believing life should be easy is what makes it harder. A lot of people feel like victims of their circumstances. They complain about their jobs, their relationships, and their lack of time. What they don’t see is that life isn’t happening to them—it’s
responding to them.
Every action—or inaction—creates your reality.
- Navy SEAL David Goggins talks about “callusing your mind.” He pushes himself through discomfort because he knows every hard thing he does makes him stronger.
- Nietzsche said, “He who has a why can bear almost any how.” If you know what you’re working toward, you’ll
endure the hard things that get you there.
- Joe Dispenza warns, “If you can’t get beyond your stresses, your problems, and your pain, you can’t create a new future where those things don’t exist.”
This is how you create a future where your stressors are minimised—you choose your hard.
The Hard You Choose Today Becomes
the Life You Live Tomorrow
When I choose my hard, I’m choosing growth. I’m choosing self-evolution. I’m choosing to become the best version of myself. And that’s a powerful thing.
You don’t have to do it perfectly. You don’t have to get it right every time. You just have to start.
Life will
always give you hard things. But you get to decide which ones are worth it.
Pick the hard that changes you. Pick the hard that builds the life you want.
Because hard things will come either way. The only question is: Who do you want to become on the other side of them?
Peace, love
and power.
