The Most Important Person to Believe in, is You.🤠👩‍🚀👩‍⚕️

Published: Tue, 01/30/24

You don't become what you want, you become what you believe.

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Everywhere I look, people are advising you to believe in yourself, but what does that mean exactly? How do you believe in yourself when everything to the contrary says that you shouldn’t?
How do you prove the inner critic wrong?
Having parents whose belief in what I was capable of was transferred to me daily, which was a blessing but only the beginning. I had a basis to start building my belief in myself. But what if you didn’t have supportive parents? How, then, do you develop faith in yourself?

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My mom used to say in her roundabout Jamaican way that if I don’t believe in myself, who will? The most crucial believer in my dreams, my ambitions, and, indeed, in me is me. This isn’t just a feel-good sentiment; it’s a fundamental truth that, when we embrace it, can transform the trajectory of our lives. As a self-published author, I’ve navigated the choppy waters of self-doubt and emerged battered but empowered. If I can help you prove your inner critic wrong and show you how to believe in yourself, I will, even without external validation.

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Are you sick of seeing less talented people powering ahead of you? Are you tired of doubting yourself every step along the way? Do you feel as though life is passing you by while you remain stuck and lacking in the confidence needed to pursue your dreams?

If so, Master Your Beliefs is for you.

Let’s begin with a fundamental question: How do you believe in yourself without evidence? The answer lies in understanding that belief is not merely a by-product of success; it is often the starting point. y journey began not with a bestseller but with a belief in the stories I wanted to tell. The evidence came later in the form of readers’ responses and growing sales. The initial leap of faith was based on nothing but an unshakable belief in my own abilities and vision.

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To foster this belief, we need to address our inner critic. Often, this critic is a conglomeration of past failures, fears, and external negativity we’ve internalised over time. The key to silencing this critic lies in understanding that past outcomes do not dictate future possibilities. Every moment is a fresh opportunity to succeed. When I faced rejections, I viewed them not as verdicts on my capabilities but as stepping stones. Each rejection was a lesson, sculpting my skills and fortifying my resolve.

Another crucial aspect of self-belief I’ve fought with is imposter syndrome – that persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud” despite evident successes and accomplishments. The key to managing imposter syndrome lies in realising it’s a shared experience, even among the most successful individuals. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings but not to let them dictate your actions. I combat this by focusing on the value I bring to my readers. Every positive comment and every reader who finds my work helpful serves as a reminder that my contributions are real and valued. Regularly reflecting on my achievements and the skills I’ve honed over time also helps in cementing my confidence. Imposter syndrome can chip away at your self-esteem. But by grounding yourself in your accomplishments and the tangible impact of your work, you can maintain a strong sense of self-worth and continue to grow personally and professionally.

Here are some practical steps:

Set Achievable Goals: Start with small, attainable objectives. Each achieved goal is a brick in the foundation of self-belief.

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Positive Affirmations: Words have power. Positive affirmations can reprogram your mindset. Remind yourself daily of your capabilities and your worth.

Reflect on Past Successes: Remember times when you overcame obstacles or achieved something you were proud of. Use these memories as evidence of your capabilities.

Seek Constructive Feedback: Surround yourself with people who believe in you and are willing to provide honest, constructive feedback. Their perspectives can help refine your path and strengthen your belief in your abilities.

Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understand that setbacks are not failures but part of the learning curve.

Visualise Success: Visualization is a powerful tool. Imagine achieving your goals; let this image motivate and guide you.

Take Action: Belief without action is mere fantasy. Take proactive steps towards your goals, no matter how small they may seem.

Celebrate Small Victories: Acknowledge and celebrate every milestone. This reinforces your belief in your journey and in yourself.

Every forward step, despite doubts, quiets the inner critic. When our work gains acceptance our imposter fears ease. Creativity transforms from a daunting leap to a brave, new journey. As our Ideas emerge stay alert to the inner critic’s slick moves. Challenge negative thoughts, and converse with yourself as a supportive ally. Silence the inner pretender by acknowledging it but still stepping forward in the direction of your dreams. Because as my mom used to say, if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will.

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