You live, and you learn, right?
As a writer, I adopted some beliefs in my early years, that now I’m more seasoned and mature, I realise they were more of a hindrance than a help. I suppose every age you pass through, you’re equipped to navigate it using tools you pick up or are guided towards by mentors. These beliefs can make you thrive, or they can become liabilities.

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The belief that life is not a race to the top, is a hard one to change. As a society, we’re encouraged to constantly compete with others and measure our worth based on our achievements. However, this kind of thinking was undermining my own sense of self-worth. I’ve learned I can’t be anyone, but myself and I need to come to terms with that. So I set goals, stretch myself, focus on my growth and development and celebrate my progress without comparing myself to anyone but myself. As my mom would say, the race is not for the swift but for those who can endureth to the end.
Amen, Mama. Amen.

The dominoes were falling as I understood and accepted myself. I became selfish, and instead of focusing on what others were doing, I tried to focus on my own path. I wasn’t in competition with the world after all. It was just me against me. What a relief that was.

The next limiting belief that took some effort to shift was toning down my hero-worshipping ass to more acceptable levels. I was more concerned about the success stories of others than my own. It was as if my aspirations didn’t matter. I fell for the glitz and glamour of my idols, investing in their stories and discounting my own.
Dumb!
I have a journey too and my own success stories, no matter how small they may seem. If I don’t celebrate my achievements, who will?

The third toxic belief I needed to exorcise was not recognising I was enough. It took time but through my writing it helped me recognise that I had something valuable to offer the world and that I’m just as worthy of success and happiness as the next man.

That’s why the fourth and final belief I had to reprogram was so pernicious. Believing that I couldn’t get better because I didn’t have a growth mindset could have been the final nail in my coffin. I cemented this belief in High School around students with loads more confidence than I had. They convinced me their many talents were hereditary. All I could do was bask in their greatness and accept the lottery of life. Looking back on how I was functioning with that belief in place is painful. I missed out on opportunity after opportunity. Instead of growth and development, I was stagnant. Fortunately, I recognised that I had the ability to learn and grow, no matter what my current skills and abilities may be. I began to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and recognise that failure is simply a stepping stone on the path to success.
It changed everything.

I’ve learned to look at my beliefs, if I’m ever out of alignment with myself. Next time you give excuses for why you can’t do something, stop and ask yourself: What about my beliefs is holding me back?
Chances are that’s where the problem lies. 
 

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