Are You Living Someone Else’s Dream❓❓❓

Published: Fri, 09/16/22

If you don't build your dream someone will hire you to build theirs.

- Tony Gaskin

This is going to be a hard one to accept because it was for me. But it’s important to face up to it. In the early days, my mentors would talk about making sure the goals you set for yourself are yours and not your families, friends or, worst, societies. I genuinely thought I understood what that meant, but alas, I didn’t.
Not really.

Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.

I believed knowing what you really wanted from life was a passive exercise. One day you’d get up and compare your life to someone you admire and would like to emulate, and that would be that. You would have set your aspirations for a better portion of your life and done yourself a disservice.

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Living a life driven by someone else’s motivation is the path to a wasted life and personal frustration. In effect, we’ve given up our own life when we submit to living by someone else’s version of who we should be.
But it’s not always easy to know.
We need to sit and quietly interrogate ourselves.
The unexamined life is not worth living, said Socrates. So let’s begin examining our lives.
The first question is, “Are you doing the work you love, or are you doing what you feel obligated to do because someone else told you, or perhaps they used guilt to force you into believing this is what you “should” be doing in your life?”

From your experiences and exploration of the world, what things are you drawn to do? Something you have a fascination for but you’re not indulging in it. Something that will give your life purpose. If you haven’t identified that dream yet, chances are you are sharing someone else’s dream, and that’s not acceptable.
Keep looking. Keep asking questions. Keep trying new things. Your dream is out there for you. There is nothing more important than living every day as you want to live it. Once you find them follow your dreams and no one else’s. Do what you want, and let no one tell you what you should do with your life.

Don’t fall into the trap of comparing your genuine dreams with anybody else’s. As Steve Harvey said, “Your dream wasn’t given to your Momma or your friend; it was given to you alone.” Also, I think Richard Bach said, “You are never given a dream without also being given the power to make it true.”
Just make sure it’s your dream.

This week gentle reader, set aside some time alone and start listing the things you dream of being or doing in your heart of hearts. Mature thinkers will not limit their potential; they understand some things may be out of their reach, not because it’s not possible, but fundamentally it’s not your dream.
Life’s too short to spend pursuing someone else’s vision or pretending to be someone you’re not. Embrace your true self and live life authentically!

Be your own hero.